#1 – Desperation is a losing strategy

When you suffer through a breakup, and you really didn’t want it to happen in the first place (or you realize after the fact that it was a mistake to breakup), you often fall into what I call the Spiral Of Desperation.

When you are in the Spiral of Desperation, you act kind of crazy.  You ask your friends (and usually his) about what went wrong. You call or text obsessively, and you become just a little bit neurotic.  When you are in the Spiral of Desperation almost everything you do , unfortunately comes across as desperate and crazy. This is not one of the good ways to get ex back.

#2 – Realize that you are OK all by yourself

While nobody can, or should, live life without a support system, one of the most positive things you can do for yourself right now is to KNOW beyond a shadow of a doubt that you are worthwhile and can live without your ex, if need be.

Take a few weeks to a month without contact… Then present your opening move.  Next, we’ll move on to one of my favorite ways to get ex back.

#3 – How to open the door to get your ex back.

After you’ve taken some time to yourself, you can use this opening move to open up the lines of communication. 

– Call – no texting or email – or handwrite your ex
– Agree with the breakup.  Tell them they were right.

What this does is Relationship Judo.  You start to pull them to you instead of push them away.  Check out a great video that explains this technique in detail here.

Many people have been helped by these ways to get ex back. 

The system that I recommend for the best ways to get ex back is the Magic of Making Up.  See my full review here.

Till next time…

Heather H