Ending a relationship with a text breakup is completely lame.  I could rant for hours on this topic, but I’ll save you my rant and get on with the tips and tricks.

#1. Desperate, needy behavior is as lame as ending relationship with a text breakup.

The challenge with breakups is that they cause tremendous emotional stress and anxiety.  To put it bluntly, this makes you act stupid.  I’m sure, that at some point, you’ve seen your friends go through breakup, and do stuff that was totally out of character.  Stuff like, text message terrorism, answering machine madness, unexpected visits unexpected visits to their ex.

Just say no.  Don’t do this stuff, it just makes you look stupid, and completely lessenes your chance of getting back with your ex.

#2. Stop lying around the house moping — get out there and do something.

Have you ever noticed that when you lay around the house depressed and miserable, it only makes you more depressed and miserable?

To stop the cycle, you need to get out more.  Go to your favorite store, restaurant, or friends house.  Play your favorite sports, go see a movie, and reconnect with the things you did when you were single.  If there were something you enjoy then, go out and do it now.  You’ll feel much better for it.

#3. Plan your opening move — make it effective.

Your opening move is critical, it will often determine the success or failure.  Check out this video of the ultimate opening move.  (Don’t worry if you birdie screwed things up with desperate needy behavior.  You can always press the reset button by limiting contact for a while.)

I really like this guy, he’s got good stuff to say.  Check out his downloadable book The Magic of Making Up here.