If you have recently split from you girl, you are most likely experiencing conflicting, confusing, and painful emotions. You are probably in emotional turmoil. The first thing you need to do is control your emotions, and then you must take a step back and take a break from your ex altogether. Do not phone or text her during your time apart.
During you time apart, you must really critically examine your past relationship. Are you 100% certain that you want to get your ex girlfriend back? If so, then you must form a sure fire strategy! One of the most essential steps is to recreate a bonding experience that will be eternally memorable to both you and your ex girlfriend.
You need a strong, emotionally charged up date to create a new bond. Lets think about an example of an emotionally charged up experience.
You are at the convenience store picking up some milk, when three men come into the store, and they are armed. They demand that everyone hit the floor. The woman next to you in line freezes, and wont move. Just as one of the gunmen begins to notice the woman, you reach up, grab her and pull her down.
You squeeze her hand, look her in the eye, and nod. She nods back, and squeezes your hand back. You whisper, its going to be ok. The robbers complete the crime and leave the store. The woman thanks you with genuine affection, and says I will never forget you.
And she wont. You wont forget her either. Thats because the experience was highly emotional and charged up. You need to create an emotionally charged up experience between you and your ex girlfriend that fosters a new bond in your relationship.
Once you end up with a date opportunity with your ex girlfriend, you have to think outside of the box to create a strong date that gives you a good opportunity to create a strong bond.
Do not do the old dinner and a movie. Its boring. Go dancing, or see a crazy concert. Learn a new craft or hobby together. Try wall climbing!
If you have to get your ex girlfriend back, then you must get thoughtful and you must get romantic! Think outside the box and establish a amazing date that she will always remember. Woo her and win her back forever!
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Maybe you’ve recently split up and you want her back. Discover how to win her back with a few psychological tactics. A few people may frown on the use of tactics like these, but who cares what they think. The important thing is to win her back.
You may not realise but we are all subjected to some sort of psychological mind games almost every day. Governments, employers, even our friends and partners. A typical example is the employee of the month. Employers are using psychological mind games to increase production.
She returns your call without you even asking…. It works like this, we love getting letters, don’t we? As long as they aren’t bills! You send her a handwritten note. You tell her how good things are for you right now and that you would like to thank her.
This works in two ways. First she’s curious and then comes the pride. She gets curios about the “thank you” bit, but then the pride takes over when she thinks she must have done something good. Because of these two triggers she will be desperate to discover the reason why you thanked her, so she will call you. You explain the breakup has done you the power of good, so thanks for that.
Of course the real reason for the letter was to get her to call you. If you play this one right you can eventually have her believe she made first contact with you again. See, you never once in the letter asked her to call you. But she did anyway and that was the whole point of the exercise.
I can show you later on where to get an exact blueprint for the actual letter to send. And some other tricks like this.
Play on her good memories…. By this I mean everyone has memories that are treasured, and these can be used for your advantage. If for instance you know what her all time fav song is, you can use this. Food and smells are good as well.
Say she calls you (after she got your letter), you can have her fav song on in the background just loud enough that she hears it. In the back of her mind when she thinks of that song she thinks of the most recent time she heard it, that was on the phone to you. She loves the song. She heard it while on the phone to you. Her subconscious links the nice feelings together.
Curious jealousy…. Get your self out with some friends but make sure you are seen to be having a great time. Also make sure that your ex finds out just what a good time you had.
As long as you aren’t out on a one to one date, which will probably enrage her, you will raise a slight feeling of jealousy in her. She will expect you to be still mourning her but here she finds you out & about enjoying yourself. If it works right she starts to feel that it should be you & her out and not you & your friends.
There you have three little psychological tricks to help you to win her back. Yes a few people will look down their nose at using them but they are harmless and no serious damage will be done. But you can’t just jump in and use these tactics without an overall plan.
What you really need is to use them as part of the total game plan to win her back. You can screw the whole game up without a system to follow.
You can find out what I think are the best couple of all round systems that will show you exactly how to win your ex back at my website… MakeupNotBreakup.com
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There are a lot of easy mistakes that you can fall into right after a breakup, but none more so than this. One of the most classic problems people face is what to say to your ex to get him back. The answer may surprise you: NOTHING!
Right after a big flaming breakup, a lot of emotions are flying around and it can be easy for either of you to say the wrong things and really hurt each others feelings, causing irreparable damage to the relationship. If you can avoid this, you will wind up finding the road to a reunion a lot easier than if you had fallen into this trap.
Often you will hear the very good advice to take a break from each other, to enter a term of no contact between you whatsoever. What is considerably less common is to hear exactly how long this period should last. I recommend you keep it up for about a months time, as that is generally about the right amount of time for anger to die down and the missing of each other to set in.
It is absolutely crucial, however, that you stick to this rule with no straying! A lot of people fall into one of the two following mistakes and break the No Contact rule, making it all the harder to regain the respect and affection of your ex:
1. Drunk Dialing. If you expect to never feel lonely, start expecting it. Your ex being gone leaves a big hole, and a lot of peope choose to try to fill that hole with alcohol. It can help take the edge off, but I dont advise you drink your problems away, or one particularly lonely night you just may find your judgement failing you, and you make a phone call you know you shouldnt.
2. Text Message Terrorism. Immediately after a breakup, most of us go into Panic Mode and start doing everything we can to try to stop our exes at the door and keep them from leaving…so we resort to a virtual attack through our cell phones or email. Sending message after message, making call after call, all we end up doing is driving the loves of our lives crazy and forcing them to avoid us as much as possible.
Its important to fight against these mistakes, as slipping could cost you a lot…too much to risk. If you can keep a good hold of yourself, you will be far more prepared for when you start talking again, and have a much better chance of getting him back.
Never forget that the best purpose of this time apart is not just to keep you from messing up your case further, but to allow you time and space to think. Devising a plan to get your ex back is far more effective than just winging it, as human nature tends to lead us in the wrong direction when it comes to this. Having an underlying strategy for this whole process will make your efforts a lot more effective.
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Right after a hard breakup all you want is to find another chance with the one you love. Unfortunately, it can be hard to know where to begin! Here are 3 words of advice to help you out with the difficult process of getting your ex back.
1) Oddly enough, it’s actually a very effective trick to actually cut off contact with your ex for about a month after the breakup. This may seem counterproductive but in reality it’s very healthy for your efforts. It gives your ex some time to cool off and think, and you some time to organize yourself and create a plan -one thing you should never be without.
Without this valuable breather time, you’d find it pretty hard to pull things together by just winging it. It’s always important to make sure you know what you’re doing before you do it, or else it may have poor consequences you didn’t at first expect.
2) Movies have somehow made it seem like every problem you have will eventually solve itself or be solved for you if you sit and cry long enough. This isn’t true, you have to take matters into your own hands and take back your life for yourself! You have to be responsible for where your life goes, not somebody else. Feel your pain from the breakup, but don’t let it bring you down and keep you from getting your life fixed.
Whatever your plan is for getting your ex back, it has to depend on you. Not your ex, not your friends, you. It’s nobody else’s responsibility, and nobody else can do it like you can. It may feel too difficult, like you can’t do it alone…but you’re the one who has to make it happen. Take comfort in the fact that you CAN do it, you may just need a little help.
3) Make sure you’re in the company of people who care about you. Family, friends…whoever there is who values your feelings and wants you to be happy, spend a lot of time with them. The support can help you heal your pain and find the motivation to work things out. But avoid just using them as a shoulder to cry on…it’s not right to lay your burden completely at the feet of other people. Value your friends, and do your best to enjoy their company.
Don’t underestimate the healing power of being with people who care for you. Just having somebody makes everything seem a little less impossible,and their support is something they’ll gladly give you. Just make sure you don’t take advantage of their kindness.
So there you go…those tips could make a huge difference in how difficult this process has to be, if you really think about them and take heed. This whole thing rests with you, so you need to make sure you’re going into this situation prepared. You’re one step there already, take the next and form a plan to get your ex back!
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