I’ve had my fair share of broken hearts… I mean haven’t we all?  These broken hearts lead me to study relationships.  I’ve been at it now for about 15 years.  It must be working, because I’ve been happily married to my husband for 14 years.  Our happiness hasn’t always come easily — life isn’t a bed of roses after all. But, I’ve learned some things over the years about what makes relationships work and about what makes them being hurtful and mean fail.  There are three rules of human behavior that are going to share with you today is to go a long way towards getting your exgirlfriend or exboyfriend back.

Rule number one.  Never, ever beg.  I remember being so brokenhearted over one break up in particular that I called him up and begged him for an explanation and begged him to take the back.  I’ll bet you can guess how well that worked.  You see when you beg your ex for another chance you actually begin to become less attractive in their eyes.  Think about it, how do you feel when you’re dealing with a clingy desperate person?  Ultimately, they eat only lowers you in the eyes of your ex.

Rule number two. Stalking is for losers.  Unless of course, you want a framed restraining order hanging above your desk.  Don’t laugh, I used to think stalking only occurred at the movies.  But honestly, there are real-life stalkers as well.  Stalking is illegal, and it will scare your ex to death.  This is not a good way to work on getting your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend back.

Rule number three.  When you’re working on getting your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend back, sometimes you can do stupid things.  You may call of her family and friends and harass them, or maybe you think it’s a good idea to spread lies about your ex.  An earlier in a lot of pain right now, but going about getting your ex back by being hurtful and mean doesn’t do you any good.  Trust me on this one, it just doesn’t work.

If you’re seriously working on getting your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend back then you need to check out The Magic of Making Up.  It is by far the best relationship guide I have come across in the 15 years I’ve been studying relationships.