Keeping Her Engaged: What To Do After You Approach A Woman
I see it time and time again – a guy approaches a woman, says a couple words, and then a few seconds later the interaction dwindles down to nothing.
If a guy fails to get the woman’s attention after a certain point, and then he runs out of things to say. The end result is that she gives him the cold shoulder and he is left wondering what happened.
Whether you’re meeting women at parties, coffee shops, bookstores, bars, or nightclubs, without keeping the ball rolling after approaching them, your chances of success are grim.
If you can’t follow up and continue the conversation after you’ve approached the girl, you’re destined for one failure after another. And as you can imagine, that will get pretty frustrating pretty fast!
Some guys know how to start up conversations with girls – it’s easy enough to do if you have a good pick up line that actually works. But taking it BEYOND that initial conversation is always the part guys run into trouble with.
This part is riddled with boring questions, awkward silences, and desperate attempts to salvage a sinking ship. For the life of them, most guys just don’t know what to talk about with women!
I wasn’t born with any real gift when it comes to smooth talk. Like a lot of men before me, I’d do a lot of work in trying to get a woman to like me. I’d constantly monitor every word that came out of my, internally edit things before saying them, and the end results weren’t better than before. I just ended up more self conscious and had even less to say!
The results became predictable. The woman would politely excuse herself, and leave. She was gone before I even got a chance to get to know her.
But then, I made a breakthrough discovery…
Have you ever noticed that when you’re talking to a girl you’re NOT attracted to, how easy it is to carry on a conversation? You can just focus on having a good time, shoot the breeze, and talk about anything, no matter how silly or stupid it may seem?
The key here is not about trying to keep the girl engaged, it’s about trying to make YOURSELF feel comfortable!
Once you can be relaxed and loosen up, you naturally become a more engaging guy!
But being comfortable with a girl isn’t enough. You also have to be able to build sexual tension while talking to her, otherwise, there’s nothing to keep her interested in you.
So the best way to quickly engage a woman, and keep her engaged, is to talk to her the same way you’d talk to a girl you already know, feel comfortable with, and think is attracted to you.
That last part is key! Believing the girl is already attracted to you (even if she isn’t) helps put you in the right mindset to create the sexual tension you need to build up attraction.
You need to think about, and remember, the topics of conversation that you share with the women you know. Now use these same subjects with women you have just met.
After that, pretend that you’ve known the woman for years, and assume that she’s really crazy about you. Do this and you’ll find it far easier to keep a woman engaged for as long as you like.
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