Did you just go through a break up and want to figure out how you can get your ex girlfriend back? Believe it or not getting your girlfriend back is easier than you think. There are fool-proof ways on winning the love of your life back, no matter how bad your breakup is. Follow these simple steps if you want to get back together with your ex:
1. Give her space
Refrain from calling or showing up at her doorstep the week after your break up. Don’t even initiate contact after two weeks. Give her enough time to cry, nurse the pain, and think about her feelings for you. There is always a chance that she wants to get back with you, but that’s after she has cleared her head. You can win her back if you respect her need for time. Don’t bombard her inbox with messages or fill up her voicemail; you’ll only get to her nerves. If you want to get your girlfriend back, make sure to remember this number one rule.
2. Show her a confident side of you
Make the effort to look impressive, not only for her but to other people as well. Girls are jealous beings. When she sees you as being attractive to other girls, she’ll be on ‘alert’ and would do what’s necessary to claim her territory which is you. By making yourself more confident, you make others attracted to you, and that is a sure-fire way to get an ex girlfriend jealous and want you back immediately.
3. Be cool with your ex girlfriend
Showing hostility towards your ex will definitely push her away. She will be annoyed up to the point of disgust if you show her you’re mad because of the breakup. This would only show that you are immature and unreasonable. By being antagonistic towards her, you are killing any chances of getting back with her. If you want to win her back, you show her you’re cool; that you are okay with the fact that you are no longer together. Show her that you still care about her and wish her all the best. This will endear you to her all the more.
Getting your girlfriend back can be difficult when there are a lot of hurt during the separation process but if you follow these steps carefully, you are sure to see your ex girlfriend back in your loving arms in no time.
Want to know what DEADLY mistakes you could be making right now that’s driving your ex girlfriend away?
I bet you’d love to know what to do and say to attract your ex right back into your arms (and as quickly as possible!)… So as you read every word on the next page, you’ll discover the exact psychological secrets PROVEN to win back lost love and get your ex begging to want you back …
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When two individuals decided to share their lives together, they both vow: To love and to hold, for better or for worse, in sickness and in health… till death do us part. They promise to keep their marriage alive. However, marriage is bound to be tested all the time, a lot of instances can take the marriage fall apart. One is domestic violence. This can cause self-degradation, the worst thing that can happen in a marriage or relationship. Due to abuse, you lose sight of what you are, your worth and self-respect. If this happens to you, would you stick to your marriage vows still?
Marriage vows are often misunderstood. For the wife, it’s not a duty to be submissive all the time and let your husband beat you after a drunken night. For the husband, it doesn’t entitle you to put yourself above the marriage, throwing your violent rants at your wife.
Domestic violence is neither limited to physical abuse nor only happens in a marriage. Actions of ignoring, ridiculing, disrespecting, and criticizing consistently can do as much damage as a slap in the face. Also, domestic violence may exist in any situation where there are two people committed themselves to share the same roof.
Domestic violence will always be frowned upon, though sometimes you think you or somebody else deserves it. Domestic violence should not happen to anybody. Not to you, to your sister, to your best friend, or even to your male colleague. It does not matter how often it occurs or how grave the violent act is. Domestic violence should never be tolerated. Ever.
But happen it does. Domestic violence knows no boundaries. It surpasses social classes and culture. It even happens to intelligent individuals. The good news to this tragic human violation of rights is that there is help. There is a viable solution to save yourself or someone you know. Maybe you have lived with abuse for a number of years. Maybe it happens sporadically. Maybe it just happened when your husband was laid off work. Maybe your co-worker is being abused by her life partner. Maybe your neighbor is being abused right now. Whoever you are, be the victim of abuse or a witness to domestic violence, there’s a way to cope up and get to the proper channels for help and recovery from abuse.
In 1994, 1995, and again in 2000, Michigan changed the laws that deal with domestic violence to make it easier for the victims of abuse to get protection through the legal system. Many organizations have the information to help you get support, not only in the physical aspect of domestic violence but in your mental and emotional state as well. Your safety is their first concern. They do have an effective plan to safely remove one person from domestic abuse. These organizations promote awareness regarding domestic violence and the constructive steps to free oneself from the said abuse. You just need to remember two things: first, abuse is never acceptable; second, you are not alone. Help is yours for the asking.
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The wedding invitation is the first thing a guest sees in relation to your wedding (other than a save-the-date, if you sent it), so you want to make it good. The way to make it good is to make it memorable by crafting your own creative DIY invitations. A creative DIY invitation doesn’t mean the invitation has to be in some cut-out shape, like a heart or a tree, or in primary colors (unless your wedding colors happen to fall in that spectrum). You can make a wedding invitation creative by just personalizing it a little bit.
Start off by personalizing the images that will appear on your invitation. Including a photo of the happy couple is a good way to start. Typically your engagement photo appears on the save-the-date notices, but if you had two excellent photos from the session or if you didn’t send save-the-dates, include a new photo on your DIY invitations.
You can also get creative with your DIY wedding invitations through the wording on the invitations. While there’s standard phrasing depending on who’s hosting your wedding – and you might want to stick close to that to make sure no one’s feelings get hurt – there are a lot of other ways you can add text to personalize a DIY invitation. For example, add a romantic quote from your favorite song on the front of your folded wedding invitation. Some quotes I particularly like are:
- “With this ring, I give my all to you.” – Clyde Otis and Vincent Corso, “With This Ring” – “How wonderful life is now you’re in the world.” – Elton John, “your song” – “You’re the closest to heaven that I’ll ever be.” – Goo Goo Dolls, “Iris” – “Come away with me, and I’ll never stop loving you.” – Norah Jones, “Come Away with Me”
The best choice might be to pick a lyric from “your” song. It’s especially nice if it happens to be your first dance song. If you’re not particularly musical, but like the idea of special text on your invitations, try a romantic quote instead. Something like this:
“Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.” –Aristotle “Your words are my food, your breath my wine. You are everything to me.” –Sarah Bernhardt “I love her and that’s the beginning of everything.” –F. Scott Fitzgerald “To love is to receive a glimpse of heaven.” –Karen Sunde
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If there’s one thing you need to know about relationships, it’s that they will come to an end at some point. No matter how madly in love you are and think that everything is always sunny between you and your lover, breakups are inevitable. Even the most tested couples have broken up some time in their lives. Breakups are difficult and painful. Here are the best ways to deal with your break up:
Let it all out.
You need to let your emotions take over. If you are feeling deeply hurt, cry your heart out. It’s healthy and therapeutic. By letting all the pain out, you will be able to feel much better. Some people tend to keep their feelings to themselves, and end up more troubled. Not only that, pent-up feelings can contribute to heart attacks. If you need to scream because of hurt and anger, feel free to do so. It will greatly help.
Discover/get back to a hobby.
One of the best ways to deal with your break up is to take up a hobby or past time. Developing a hobby will keep you busy. This will take your mind off the pain caused by the separation. Plus, this will do you a lot of good. Some past times can help make your body fitter, your mind sharper, and knack for things better.
Eat comfort foods.
Break ups are one of the exceptions when it comes to your diet. This gives you permission to indulge (only a bit) in comfort foods. Eat ice cream, cakes, and other foods that make you feel better. Studies have shown that eating comfort foods really does have an effect on feeling better. Such foods trigger the release of some type of substance that helps a person feel better. But be careful not to indulge too much unless you want to gain a lot of weight.
Be in the company of friends.
Friends are and will always be the people you can count on to be on your side in times of pain. These are the people who you can trust to keep your secrets and share your pain. They will provide you with support and advice. They are the shoulders you can cry on. Most of the times, you don’t even have to call them to share your pain, they come knocking on your door even before you pick up the telephone.
Be with your family.
Your family is the only place where you will feel unconditional love. No matter what happened, whether it’s your fault or not, your family will always be by your side. They will never leave you to experience the pain alone.
Breakups are indeed very hard to deal with. But with people and things that can keep your mind off the pain mentioned above, you will be able to get over the pain quicker than you thought. These are the best ways to deal with your breakup. But if you feel you need more, we can help you get useful information on dealing with breakups.
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I bet you’d love to know what to do and say to attract your ex right back into your arms (and as quickly as possible!)… So as you read every word on the next page, you’ll discover the exact psychological secrets PROVEN to win back lost love.
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I wrote about the powerful effect of touch and how to use it while flirting in the last article of this series. In this article, I’ll show how your vocal signals play a significant part of nonverbal flirting.
Hold on… how is this nonverbal, if it relates to the voice? Despite that, it doesn’t relate to the words you are using. Rather, it deals with the INFLECTION you use while speaking.
The distinction is important. Much of your first impression is based on HOW you say something, versus a small amount of it being based on WHAT you say. It’s drastically more important.
With that regard, it’s important to be able to read her vocal signals too. It’s quite possibly the stronger interest indicator we have, yet most people disregard this.
Let’s look at this – take a simple word, like “hello”. Now think of the different ways to say “hello”, in terms of inflection. You can say it in a manner of surprise, if you weren’t expecting to see that person wherever you are.
More importantly, you can say it in a manner that indicates interest. If you say hello in a drawn out manner, with a rising intonation at the end, think about what it says. Try it.
It can show you are interested. Now think about this. It will also show you if SHE is interested. She might say it in a flat, monotone voice. That’s not good. But if she smiles brightly and says hello, it generally is a positive thing.
Remember, always look for other signs to gauge this against. She might have a monotone voice or be somewhat of an unemotional person, so her intonation will come across as flat. She might also have a vibrant personality, and be overly friendly, so her response might not be what it seems. The best method of judging this is by watching how she reacts to others.
How does intonation work? It’s all about reading between the lines – it will become apparent. Hello can have several meanings – the first is “wow, you are gorgeous”, and on down the line to “go away and stay away.” If you pay attention, you’ll catch my drift.
Get a friend, and practice catching the meanings behind the word “yeah”. Try to make it mean as many things as possible. At the same time, see how fast you can pick up the inflections.
Also take the time to listen to your own voice. Are you monotone? Soft spoken? Work on that – make it lively. Try playing with the pace, pitch, and tone. If you have problems in this area, it will give you instant results in regards to people seeing your positively.
Your volume is important too. I you are too quiet, you will come across as a bit submissive and worse, frustrating to the listener, who might have to ask you to speak up.
But be sure to temper it. I’m sure you’ve dealt with a very loud person who had a pitch that was everywhere. They are obnoxious, and far worse than being monotone.
The idea is to balance all the parts correctly. This takes a bit of effort, but it is well worth it.
Another key element to remember is the use of intonation to allow a turn change. This is an important verbal cue that is forgotten more often than not.
If there is a rise or fall in the intonation by the other person, it is generally used to indicate that the person is done speaking and wishes the other person to speak.
Conversely, if you do the same, she might be expecting that you have finished speaking, and it is her turn.
Not heeding these signals can lead to bumpy conversations, even irritating enough to end them.
Again, with this, practice! Hold conversations with friends, and watch the conversations of others with an eye towards these cues.
You’ll need to practice, but in time your voice will become a part of your success!
This concludes my series on nonverbal flirting. Next up, I’ll continue the series on flirting by writing about the verbal part of it! After that, I’ll show you how to put all the pieces together!
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Have you grown dubious about some of the tips provided by ‘relationship experts’ that are supposed to help you get back together with your ex? There have been lots of helpful tips being passed around in the online community but finding the best and most effective can be quite difficult.
The reason for this is that different people have different situations so not everything you read will work for you. What works for me may not necessarily be effective for you. This goes to show that there’s still a need to carefully examine a certain advice’s effectiveness in fixing your heart woes.
Let me share with you 5 mind blowing tips to help you get back together with your ex. Be warned that some of these tips are bordering on the extreme, which is what they should be, that’s why they are considered mind blowing.
Admit that it’s your fault.
Do this even though you feel it’s the other person responsible for the break up. Admitting fault will make you look like a mature person willing to accept responsibility for what happens to him. It manifests humility. Your ex will love this trait about you.
Give them the cold shoulder.
Be distant. Your ex expects you to be always tailing them, asking for another chance. No way in hell would you want to look that pathetic. You can get your ex back without having to look like a loser. Act indifferent whenever you are around them. They will wonder why you are acting strange and then start to chase after you just to find out what caused the sudden change in your attitude.
Get a makeover.
Improve your appearance. Go to the gym and lift some weights. Get a new look; sport a new haircut. Make sure you look better. This will make you attractive to other people and make your ex jealous. It naturally follows that people will gravitate towards you because of your good looks and charm. Bask on this. This will help you get your ex back. The moment they start to get jealous, they will do everything to get your attention back.
Spend as much time away from them as possible.
Your ex needs time to heal. And if you are constantly at their side asking for another chance at love, they will only get irritated and even infuriated with your total insensitivity. Let them be for a while. Do not make contact. They may start to miss you that way.
Find another lover.
How is this effective in getting back your ex? Two words: time and jealousy. When your ex finds out you are ready to be in a new relationship and they still have some feelings for you, it will make them stop procrastinating. They know for sure that if they don’t act now, it would all be too late. If they want to be with you again, they’ll feel they have to do it right now.
To get back together with your ex, you need to veer from the simple, safe, and less effective tips. You need to be a little more aggressive if you want to win back your love. Follow these steps and you’re guaranteed to get your ex back.
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If you are looking for the best way to get your ex back, then it helps to have a policy that you can note.
At the outset know that statement is very essential if you want to get your girlfriend back.If you are not chatting at all, your girlfriend has no approach of intended you want to renovate your correlation though if you talk too much you can ruin your probability of getting back unruffled
Next if you genuinely want to get your girlfriend back, then be tremendously precautious dating other women. Coming crossways as in no doubt wins points but dating other women might drive your girlfriend away. infrequently a woman can use this to pull a man back into a rapport but it can fail gloomily when men try it. Either way it is a risky operation and you may drive a eternal wedge among the two of you.
Third,try to be aware of why you split up. This can be difficult when you are on the demonstrative roller coaster that follows a ending but eventually you are going to need to deal with what caused your girlfriend to permission At epoch you have to stop thinking about about what is right and focus on how you will have to control your contemplation processes to keep the connection operation In other personal belongings you might need to seek expert help to answer your differences.
Fourth,send her a casual and special email or text point to stay in hint All you are doing with the implication is to recap her of you. Try not to become visible to be anxious and don’t flood her inbox. Use your own carefulness otherwise each idea A word of concern – you need to do this at the right time in the handle If you make write to too basic you will in all probability wreck your chances of being paid back together.A flippant “Hey, what’s up?” is as much as necessary to let your girlfriend know you have been philosophy of her. This is the best relationship guide you will find.
Fifth,show your girlfriend she is central to you. One manner to show that you value your girlfriend is to dredge up the significant dates in her life. Women like it when a guy takes the time to array a date or to pick out a selfless gift. Men enjoy it when women think of them as well. In this case, send your girlfriend a note on her centennial and let her know you are view about her in a wholesome and innocuous way.
Sixth,never fool manually into thinking you know the whole story about why you split up. test your assumptions and what you think is authenticity Asking your girlfriend why she did or said rather in a minimalist way is often the only way to unearth the genuineness
Seventh,disperse any vagueness about your requirements and how you feel about your girlfriend. Through chance means of communication let your girlfriend know you have feelings for her and that you are thinking about her. Try to remark some of the happy memories and drop a hint that you would like to darning the association
If your girlfriend understands you are idea about her and that you are disposed to answer your challenges, it can go a long way towards selection your her pick to give your relationship another try.
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Before you can learn how to jump higher you need to understand a couple of things about muscles. Our muscles are actually able to store energy in them for very short period of time and you can learn how to use this stored energy as fuel to jump higher.
Muscles can be seen as springs and you know that when a spring is compressed it has energy stored and ready to be used. This is what happens in the muscles of our legs as we bend our knees before a jump.
So when your knees bend you are essentially loading a spring. The muscles in our body can feel any stretch and they want to counter that by contracting the opposing muscles which will cause us to jump.
This is where plyometrics come in. Plyos and proper training will make that counter reaction fire with much more power. It’s not the size of the muscle that determines power, or your would see bodybuilders hitting their heads on the rim from jumping so high.
You do need strong legs and tendons before you start an intense jumping routine. Plyometrics will train your muscles to all fire at the exact same time and this will make you jump higher.
1. If you can’t squat your weight comfortably then you need to get stronger legs before starting plyos. Aim to do 125% your weight 8 reps in 8 seconds.
2. Now that your legs are strong enough, make sure you do plyos on fresh legs. Don’t burn out with weights and then do plyos. You want to jump your highest possible each time.
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Trying to get back the one you love after an unwanted breakup can be a really difficult thing to do. Don’t give up though because there is away to do this. Making up with a woman is almost an art form! You need to know exactly what to do…this article will teach you your craft!
The craft of getting back together is exactly that! Its an art form that you will need to master, just as an apprentice learns his trade. This craft will teach you that you need to first use your head and work out what went wrong and then put into action a plan that will fix things.
At the very core of this plan is learning to understand the mindset of your woman. It is essential that you do this before you try to move forward from your break up. The main reasons why women break up are quite simple!. Here they are in a nutshell:
1. If a woman does not always feel appreciated by her man she will give up and leave
2. Women need to know their partner needs them When they don’t get this reassurance they leave.
3. They dont feel wanted
Remember, no matter what the outer cause of your break up was, if your woman has had enough of you, you have somehow let her down in one of these areas. Even if she cheated, most often it is due to not feeling fulfilled in her relationship with you somehow.
But remember, I told you not to despair! Once you understand these facts it helps you to understand where things have gone wrong so that you can make a reunion plan based on making things right again! Initially that plan will involve letting her have some space away from your relationship and guiding her towards wanting to talk to you again.
As your plan to make up progresses you will get to that important stage of meeting face to face again. Knowing what to do and say and exactly what to say will be easy because you will be confident in the making up techniques you will have mastered by this point. And of course once you succeed in winning back your love, the art of relationship mending will help you do just the right things to make sure you never break up again.
Are you thinking this is going to be too difficult? I have to be honest and say you will need to put in a big effort, but if you truly want this woman back that will be motivation enough to put in the effort you will need. The most important part of all this is to learn the “craft” I keep referring to. So just where do you get the skills of making up? How exactly will you win her back? How do you formulate this plan that will work?
Luckily you can find out exactly what to do and say from a highly successful relationships mending program known as The Magic Of Making Up. In fact the Magic of Making Up has taught the craft of getting back the one you love to over 6000 people who have successfully mended their relationships using the program.
Getting back the one you love may be easier than you think, providing you have just the right help and support! Go ahead, learn your craft!
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The conservative knowledge says when the relationship between you and your spouse gets splinted, in the aftermath both of your minds will be prone to the risk of making wrong choices and decisions.
The luring to have a rebound relationship lures is one of it. Many views dwell on rebound relationship and many vote negative on it and fell it is not good. The way you tackle such relationship is the key.
If you enter a relationship thinking it will be the solution to all of your problems then you will likely end up getting hurt because it is the pain of the breakup, rather than affection for your new partner that is motivating you.
In the case of rebound relationship, it will help in recharging your might and emotional stability. It provides you with time and space to reorganize your priorities and plan your life. This can a real fun and you are due for it, since you had the enough troubles all the way in life.
It is true that you still have not got over your ex, but being single again sets you free and helps to regain your confidence. It can also make you realize that your ex is not indispensable and breaking up with him is not the end of world.,
This breather allows you to gather yourself. Your soul-searching makes you strong and wise to get him back, when the time is right.
His awareness about your shopping on someone else will sharpen his mind to focus on his memoirs of you and his expectations on the future. If the love for you persists, the knowledge of your independent nature would make his mind more concentrated to get you back.
The unwarranted result is the frequently not advised action that draws what you both want: being one and may be to have a healthier relationship.
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A new innovation is transforming many lives in the villages of India by bringing light were there used to be darkness.
The New York Times published an article titled, “Husk Power for India”. Electricity, which is prevalent in the lives of many in developed nations, is a pure luxury in remote areas of developing ones. What was once fed to animals now is used to generate electricity – rice husks.
Being brought up in the pastoral Bihar State, Manoj Sinha knew what it was like to be without light at night. Being an engineer with Intel Corporation he had all the competence to bring a life long idea to fruition. He led the creation of his power generation equipment from rice husks and other wastes from farms and now he sells power to rural areas across India.
Sinha is what could be called a social industrialist because he feels entrepreneurship is a way out for important problems of the society. “Business leaders must realise that the world’s poor need investments more than handouts,” he says, adding, “these are customers, not victims.”
The article inspired me to think about giving in a different way leading me to ask myself, “what is the most effective form of giving?” Is it education, commercial activity or disaster relief? There are so many ways to make a difference. One way of giving can seem more effective or sustainable than other ways depending on the way it is expressed, looked at or implemented.
I then came to delineate there were eight segments to giving as a way to see this. So, let me chart out the eight differences; which in effect are often ’stages’ of giving as well.
Stage one: Necessity – saving and helping others who are afflicted by natural catastrophe, contagious diseases or other unmanageable conditions.
Stage two: Reprieve – providing reprieve from long-standing malnutrition, penury, illnesses, handicaps or inequity which otherwise would prolong or get worsened because of the lack of perception, edification or resources.
Stage three: Healing and protection – mentally, physically and emotionally. Many people carry traumas that may be invisible but severely limiting their lives. Giving the healing to release the deep-rooted pain creates more opportunities for them while giving suitable protection gives them a sense of security.
Phase four: Edification – giving better edification, awareness and skill imparting to create empowered and innovative solutions to generating resources while helping people to discover their exclusive talent to succeed.
Stage five: Inspired investment – giving a help, capital or resources to those who have great talent to alter the situation. This gets used many times as the resources become more and passed on to other people who again produce more out of the prospects given.
Stage six: Tenability – working together with the people in the local surroundings, creating tenable groups – ambience-wise and reciprocally.
Phase seven: Empowerment – enabling and motivating the people to release their true ability and power to make a change. In this group of sharing, the aim of giving changes from ‘giving to the people who want’ to ‘giving people a chance to give to others’ and to the society.
Stage eight: Loving – just doing whatever we feel to do to love and care for others. No strategy or expected outcome exists in this stage of giving. ‘Giving’ does not even exist here in the traditional sense of the word, as there is no sense of possession or judgment or desire to change anything. This is where we do not even have to think about anything, we give as a part of our own joyful experience.
What we also perceive is that at each one of these eight stages of giving there are distinctive things that the donor gets back.
One: Sense of connection
Two: Sense of comfort
Three: reprieve from ache (our own)
Four: Gratification for our own understanding, talents and situations
Five: Long-term sense of commitment and contentment for our own life
Six: Better ambience for our own life and for the lives of others we treasure and revere
Seven: Soul gratifying encouragement and devotion to our own purpose
Eight: Care
Giving has many levels and experiences depending on the giver and the receiver. And the ’stages’ do not describe which one is more important than the other. All are necessary.
I was gifted with an experience early in 2008 while travelling with a group of dedicated entrepreneurs through India to see how we could be more effective in our giving. I was blessed to have one particular experience that made me think about what ‘effective giving’ really meant.
We were travelling in a small town one day. Four of us had just called a taxi to take us to another nearby town. We dealt with the driver cautiously as our hotel staff had forewarned us about the possible swindle when they see that we were not local.
We halted briefly in front of the local train station for a short recess on the way. While the others went to use the restroom, I tried to chat with our taxi driver standing near his vehicle. With his limited knowledge of English and a wonderful smile that showed his blackened front teeth, he told me that he had a house on the suburbs of the town and he had a sweet wife and two lovely kids who went to the local school – I felt a strong bonding with him.
I appreciated the fact of his having such a wonderful family and told him that I too had two little ones of almost the same ages as his. When the others were back the driver suddenly invited us to come to his house and have lunch. I took it only as a formality that was customary courtesy. But after taking us to the town center and leaving us there, he told us that he would wait for us until all our wandering in the town was over. And he really did. I was actually quite astonished to see him still remaining glued to the side of the road next to his taxi more than one hour later. We got into the taxi and he drove fast up the road to where he had his family.
When we arrived we were actually quite shocked to see how he was living. It was almost like the same condition (if not worse) to the lifestyle of people living in slums we had visited previously. From the nice new taxi he was driving, who could have imagined
As the car turned into the narrow unsealed road between the hut-like houses that were constructed with crudely made concrete blocks and painted mud walls, we felt contrite about having agreed to his invitation. For a brief moment I felt mortified. “How could I have exploited the generosity of a man who didn’t seem to have anything and I didn’t even get any edible stuff or presents for his family”, I thought.
As we went inside his house, we saw a vessel and a small stove on the floor. His timid young wife raised her head in surprise and withdrew into the small store room (a cupboard size) adjacent to it. As I took in the scene, I saw the neighbours residing next door giving her a few cups across the broken down concrete fence. The young couple did not even have sufficient teacups in their house. There was a single room fitted with one single bed and a pretty old galvanised box near it.
The driver hastily drew out three hand-woven mats from the trunk and spread them out on whatever little space there was on the mud floor and put one on the bed.
Hot cups of tea came pretty fast and so did some snacks. His kids as well as all the little ones in the neighbourhood came to see us and stood around near the door. All six of us were totally wedged into the small room. I asked him with surprise where all his children slept. I thought they might be having another space somewhere. To my utter surprise, he pointed the chest and happily said that it was their sleeping space.
He cheerfully informed us that he was a dancing expert of the area and pointed at the medals displayed on the recess above his bed. Bent on showing us his dancing skills he at once ran outside. From some place music started coming into the tiny room. He has no arrangement for music in the house, it was flowing in from outside. I wondered where it came from till I saw him bringing his taxi in reverse to the back wall of his house with the doors open and music flowing in from the high volume car radio!
With his dancing and the cups of tea his wife produced, time moved quickly and it was soon time to thank them for their wonderful hospitality and proceed on our way. As we got up to leave and give our thanks to him and his wife, he took the best of the rugs he had, rolled it and gave it to us. It was practically one of the handful of good things he had. It was difficult to comprehend the enormity of the gesture.
We all courteously begged off his gift and moved out waving goodbye to all the people waving back at us. We got real baffled about the whole affair. Should we have paid them something as they surely had only too little money? Should we have consented to take the cherished gift he made us?
As I was thinking about this awe-inspiring experience after a few days, I considered our begging off his gift. He looked crest-fallen that we didn’t accept the gift. It wasn’t only the rejecting of the gift that remained in my mind.
I realised that the sense of discomfort I felt was actually coming from perceiving him as less fortunate. I was thinking that I couldn’t possibly take anything from someone who had so little.
But did he actually have modest means? Maybe he had other things – a lot more.
Maybe the perfect gift we could have given him then was to accept his gift in total surrender and gratefulness.
All actions of gifting and getting are essential for us to fill our world with plenty and contentment equally for both giver and getter. We can begin doing this instead of assessing and defending one over the other. The perfect act of gifting and getting needs no further clarification.
Manoj Sinha’s words continue to reverberate in my mind, “these are customers, not victims.” I can picture the happy faces of the rural folk who are now pleased to have power in their hamlets and the kids who now can read books and happily do their homework at night.
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Are you a volunteer? Do you enjoy being one? I feel very glad that I find the meaning of life and happiness through serving others. I feel that I was born to serve others, I really love to be a volunteer.
As a fanatic of serving others, I have been a volunteer for over 10 years already. I enjoy serving other people as I am fond of watching those I served showing broad smiles to me.
I was 8 years old when I first had the experience of serving the needy ones. I could still remember how happy the elderly people were when I played the piano and my classmates sang Christmas songs to them. And they told me about they old good memories.
When I entered secondary school, I have more chances to serve others. I participated in different service programmes organized by various charities. Those times were marvelous. But, they are not the most fab parts in my life of serving others!
The most interesting part of being a volunteer is to try orgainizing service programmes. When I was promoted to high school, I had the chance to hold service projects. It was from that time onward, I love serving others even more.
I did not choose to leave my volunteer life even after I became a Uni student. As a University student, life is actually quite hard as I have tonnes of work to do. However, when I am having fun with those I serve, I see their smiles, they make me smile too, and make me feel the love between human beings. All these swept away my work pressure.
Even after my university life, I wish I could serve others by providing service using my knowledge. I want to assist charitable organisations by giving them free administrative service so that they can save more money for serving more people.
I really enjoy to be a volunteer! So what about you? Join us now and make your life more fabulous by helping others!
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Fashion is not only for women as well as the jewelries and necklaces. Men can state their own style of fashion by wearing necklaces. From simple men to high-class business men want to wear necklaces of their own preference to show their sense of fashion.
Most of the modern styles of necklaces nowadays are in proper style for men?s taste. Men purchase necklaces as gifts to their loved ones and to give themselves some look of fashion and style. Among the style of necklaces popular to most men is the cross and chain necklaces.
Younger men of this generation usually prefer to wear cross necklaces. But some older men and little boys wear necklaces with cross pendant as well in some instances. To some men, this cross necklace has a certain meaning, while to others it is just for the sense of fashion or for good luck as well, sometimes.
On the other hand, all men consider the chain necklaces as the stylish one making it more popular than any other styles available. Some chain necklaces come in thick styles, while some are thin. You can find silver or gold chain necklaces, but there are also some designed with both metals. However and whatever style you prefer, these necklaces state fashion and style when worn by men of all ages, and men definitely would look good every time they wear the necklace. It just takes the right choice of style to make the fashion look appealing.
Silver necklaces tend to look better on some men while gold tends to look better on others. There are a lot of things to take into account when choosing either silver or gold. Those things are your skin color, eye color, and outfit.
Necklaces may be worn either for fashion, good luck charm, or for additional appeal. Just like how athletes wear their necklaces while playing. Some men wear one with a school mascot or something related to their profession on it.
It is not only men who give women jewelry as gifts, but women also love to give men, especially their husband, a gift of necklace. And because men want to wear different styles of necklaces, there are many designs available at the market today. Some men would even wear more than one necklace at once depending on their moods and fashion. It was also observed that more men than women wear necklace, and most of the older men go for gold thick necklaces and younger men choose thin but longer necklaces.
Men that have served in the army can be seen wearing their army necklaces as well. Do not let the thought of seeming less masculine while wearing a necklace scare you away. Wearing a necklace will add to your appeal if anything. Ask any woman what she thinks about a man wearing a necklace and you are bound to get a positive answer. They can bring out the color of your eyes, add to your charm, and enhance your overall look.
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Silk flowers are longer lasting, less expensive than fresh flowers, and very popular for displaying. Using them, you can add interesting dashes of color throughout your surroundings. They are affordable and versatile in their uses. They are popular to display in many areas, such as at weddings, homes, churches, offices and hotels, just to name a few.
Silk flowers hold a long lasting beauty, which is one of their most outstanding benefits. They hold the same beauty in years to come as they have while first being arranged. When you want a change in their appearance, all you have to do is rearrange them. You can quickly update your floral arrangements by adding interesting greenery such as leaves.
Artificial flowers do not require special care, with the exception of an occasional dusting. You never have to water them and they do not require any specific lighting. However, you should never place them in direct sunlight, since silk flowers will eventually fade in beauty and color.
Many crafty individuals enjoy working with artificial flowers; however, there is no need to rush creativity. These flowers will not wilt and if the arrangement is not satisfactory, you can simply rearrange them until they are suitable.
Silk flowers can be impressive at weddings. A bride can have out of season flowers for her wedding, since Silk flowers are always in season. Any wedding theme colors are matched by dying silk flowers. Having a stunning wedding bouquet that lasts a lifetime can please any bride. After the wedding reception, guests are generally given the centerpieces as special mementos. Fresh flowers are expensive and you save a great deal of money when using Silk flowers instead.
For people that suffer from allergies, artificial flowers can be a lifesaver. They allow people to enjoy the beauty of nature without the annoying side effects. Allergy sufferers can decorate their homes without the fear of stuffy noses or watery eyes.
Various arrangements are useful for every season. There are many arrangements you can use to decorate your home during the springtime, summertime, autumn as well as throughout the yearly holidays. You can store them easily and use them every year. Doing so can save you a lot of money.
Artificial flowers are available in a wide range of prices. Plastic flowers are probably the least expensive and most durable. They can withstand any climate and are not affected by water. They usually resist sun fading better than silk flowers. Silk flowers are very realistic looking and cost more than plastic flowers. Silk flowers and plants will vary widely in price. More affordable varieties are available at craft stores or department stores, with higher end varieties available at specialty shops.
Artificial flowers are a low cost alternative to fresh flowers. They last for many years with minimal care and upkeep. They are a decorating staple for many people because they are so versatile and realistic.
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Asking yourself how to flirt with a guy?
Aren’t you lucky you found this site, I’m going to tell you, so keep reading.
Stop being the only girl out of your group who can’t get a guy!
Stop being the only girl who just doesn’t have a great guy in her life!
Perhaps the reason for your boring and uneventful dating life is because you do not know what it takes to flirt with a guy!
Don’t go anywhere and read this right now, it’s about how to flirt with a guy.
1. Be careful to make yourself look as great as you can. Please don’t get the impression that I’m saying you have to look like a skinny super model, but what I am saying is that you need to at least pay attention to how you present yourself. Are you dressing properly? Perfume? Are you wearing it? Are you wearing makeup that makes you look good? Not all men are attracted to good looking women, but all men are put off by girls who do not take care of themselves!
2. Keep the conversation topic about him and keep him interested in what you have to say. Men, like all people enjoy talking about themselves, so that’s why you need to talk about him. So, remember you need to be a fantastic listener. Don’t get caught up with yourself and start talking about yourself all the time. You want to keep him interested in the conversation and there’s no better conversation topic than talking about one self.
Do not present yourself with negative body language. You have to make him like you, so stay positive and happy. One more thing to remember is to flirt with him by touching him in a way that lets him know that you feel safe in his presence, such as tapping him on the arm when you laugh at his jokes.
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Mel Gibson had the power to actually hear what a woman was thinking and thats how he knew What Women Want. It is no wonder then that men find it practically impossible to tell what a woman wants. However, if you really want to get back with your ex girlfriend, youre going to have to do better than that. No more excuses about how women are so hard to figure out and all that.
While youre on your own quest to figure that out, well start you off with a few character traits that all women look for in their ideal man.
Traits That Make A Man Attractive To Women
Here are the top personality traits you need to have in order to get back with your ex girlfriend:
An undying passion to his vision: Most men would be surprised to know that a man who is not very rich but has a burning passion to do something and relentlessly pursues his goals, is a lot more attractive to women, than someone who is wealthy but has no sense of purpose in life.
Yes, its true. Now you know why some extremely rich men cant get a date even if their life depended on it! So, be a man with a strong sense of desire and purpose and watch women flock to you, even your ex girlfriend.
Unwavering confidence: A strong sense of self-confidence is extremely sexy and attractive in a man. In fact, if you can just develop great confidence, your looks (or lack thereof) wont matter at all.
If you dont have a lot of confidence, chances are that it is one of the reasons your girlfriend left you. Thus, in order to get back with your ex girlfriend, build your self esteem and confidence.
Have the ability to treat a woman like one: There are men who hardly ever give a second thought to what their woman might be feeling and then there are men who know how to treat a woman in different situations and how to keep her emotionally happy. Which one do you think women would want to be with?
Thus, the key to get back with your ex girlfriend is to develop these traits in yourself as soon as you can.
But how do you go about doing this? Its not just innately built into some than others, and if you knew how to build a more attractive you Im sure you would have done it already.
There is a very effective solution I want to share with you because I know how important love is.
Allow me to take you by the hand and show you exactly what to say and do to appear 10x more attractive and desirable to your ex girlfriend even if theres someone else.
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Cheating husband signs are pretty easy to spot if you are actually looking for them. Be careful and make sure you are not allowing your mind to run away with some evil thoughts as we are all prone to see what we want. There are some cheating husband signs that are unmistakable though. Fortunately, or unfortunately depending upon your perspective, men don’t seem to learn from history. If you see any of the following, it is probably time to confront him.
Is your husband suddenly more secretive or resentful than before? If you ask him where he was, does he lash out at you in anger? Is he spending a lot more time with his friends now than he ever was before? If these are the case, he is hiding something from you. It could be bad.
You might start to notice changes in little details about his explanations. Is he having an affair? He may be wining and dining someone when he pretends to be working late at night. If your cheating husband signs more checks than usual, or waits by the letter box and takes the credit bill straight upstairs then you should be wary.
Another dead giveaway is if he hides his phone bill when it arrives or mysteriously has another phone. Pay-as-you go phones don’t have an itemized bill. You may catch him sending text messages which he suddenly switches off when you enter the room.
Most men will avoid a fight with their woman at all costs. We all know the two best words in the English language for a successful relationship are “yes dear.” We will pick our spots, but for the most part, we will concede defeat as long as it does not involve football. If he is coming home and starting fights and then storming out, he is trying to accomplish two things. He maybe trying to get you to break up with him and he is also generating a way to get out of the house for a few hours.
I hope you don’t see these signs in your relationship, but if you do, you might need some marriage help.
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Most of us have been there before ” you’re asking yourself “what should I do; he dumped me!”. Well, I have some advice for you, but I have to warn you right now that this article isn’t necessarily going to make the pain go away. However, remember that you will be fine.
A lot of people thinking “he dumped me!” worry about two things. They are concerned that the pain they’re feeling will never end and that there is something wrong with them that caused the breakup; some even fear that no one will ever love them again!
Take heart, dear. The fear is real. The pain is real. But, the situation exists in your head, not in the real world. While one part of your life may be over, your life is not over.
You still have friends and family who care about you. In fact, you now have more time to spend with them. Many times, when you get into an involved romantic relationship, we lose touch with the other people who bring meaning to your life. You now have a chance to reconnect with them.
You may end up swapping break up stories with them. When you disclose “he dumped me”, they might open up to you and tell you about how they’ve been in the same boat before. Other people have been through tough breakups and lived to tell the tale ” family members and your friends among them.
In addition to having more time for others who you care about, you will have more time to work on the issues in your life. Many times, when you are in a relationship, the activities you care about get pushed aside if your boyfriend isn’t interested in them. This is a good time to get re-involved in the things that matter to you.
If there’s nothing you’ve been neglecting, then this might be a great time for a new hobby. When you’re thinking “he dumped me”, you may well be suffering from low self esteem. Get out there, keep busy and make some new friends ” this will make you feel better about yourself.
The best activities to get involved in are group ones like a club or a class where you can take part in some sort of activity and socialize with other people.
Once you begin to rejoin the world, you’ll feel better about life and about having been dumped. You can make new friends, start enjoying new activities or rediscovering old hobbies and maybe you’ll even meet your next special someone while you’re out there living your life!
The truth is that you will find someone to date again. Your soul mate is out there.
In retrospect, you may look at the breakup as a positive event which allowed you to move on and meet that perfect guy; after all, the best revenge is living well!
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Some would say the little known techniques I used to get my wife back are a little underhand. But not me.
If you are in the middle of a breakup you can make one of two choices. You can either try to get her back, or you can give up and walk away.
Before you decide to call it a day and move on, ask yourself is this really what you want?
A lot of relationships, even ones that look dead and buried, can be rescued with a bit of effort and the right plan.
I actually bought a -get my wife back – system on the internet. I couldn’t believe these things were actually for sale but there you go. I certainly didn’t expect any results from it.
I made the choice to give it a try and get her back. I mean, I couldn’t lose her twice so it was worth a try.
There was a section in the system I got that covered psychological mind games. Things that could be used on people to sway them to do what we wanted.
There was nothing heavy or underhand about it though. Merely little plays with words and phrases and some other crafty tactics. Very similar to what advertisers do to make us buy stuff we neither want nor need.
In fact you couldn’t even hypnotise someone to do something that their conscious mind would disagree with. So these psychological mind games are pretty safe to use.
In the overall system I used to get my ex back, I used a couple of specific psychological moves that worked really well.
I left a message on my ex’s answer phone with a few phrases that the system suggested. I didn’t ask her to call me back, but her curiosity was such that she just had to call me back.
She called a few times after that and always I had her favorite tune playing in the background. This further linked me to her fav tune.
Next was a series of seemingly small steps on her part that led to bigger ones. Simply having coffee together, then a casual date out, then a nice meal somewhere. Always leading to something slightly bigger.
Lastly she moved back in with me. Which wasn’t a big deal for her as she’d been psychologically conditioned by all the previous smaller steps she had taken.
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Who doesn’t dream of a fairy tale “happily ever after”? Happy endings are something we grew up with and aspire for. But sometimes, despite good intentions, we find ourselves asking “whatever happened to MY ‘happily ever after’?” What if things turned into a living nightmare? Weddings are about joyful beginnings. But marriages? You don’t get married thinking how it will end. In movies, happy endings usually come in the form of the main characters getting married. But real life doesn’t work that way.
Does this sound familiar? The two of you argue about everything – who fed the cat, who didn’t take out the trash, who left the iron on – yet your arguments lead nowhere. You call him a jerk. He calls you a nag. You two cannot talk to each other without snapping or biting each other’s head off.
Even your family and friends cringe when the two of you are around. One of you sleeps alone in the bedroom, while the other one is sleeping in the other room or on the couch. If this scenario sounds familiar, you might be asking, “How can I save my marriage?” Many people drag their feet and hope that things will just work out. It won’t. Not when you keep sweeping problems under the rug.
If you want to save your marriage, then save it. The longer you delay facing your problems, the worse it may get. And it’s usually too late when you waited too long. The best thing is to face your problem now. Acknowledge that there’s a problem. Don’t wait for it to go away on its own. Perhaps you think that admitting there’s a problem implies that you’re a failure, so it is better not say anything. It’s possible that one of you already realizes it, but the other one doesn’t. Or maybe both of you know there’s something wrong, but to say it out loud means it’s true. So once again, no one’s saying anything. Then again, it’s possible that such intense emotions are being directed outwards in a negative way, instead of the opposite.
Face it. Deal with it.
Acknowledge to your partner that there’s a problem. Sit down and figure out what happened. Discuss your issues. Once the two of you have an idea on what led to the current situation, then what’s going on will suddenly make sense. You don’t need to live your life like a living nightmare. If the two are you are willing to save your marriage, then you just might create your own version of “happily ever after”.
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