Sometimes, a woman will say one thing, but it’s later revealed that she meant something completely different.
I’m sure most of you guys have experienced this before.
Here’s an example – the woman who says she’ll only date someone taller than her.
And then, the next guy you see her out on a date with is about a foot shorter than she is.
Sometimes a woman will say she prefers to be taken out to dinner and a movie.
And then, she tells you the best date she ever had was when a guy took her on a walk on the beach.
Sometimes the woman says she’s looking for a guy with a nice, steady job who can provide for her.
And then, she’s seen galavanting around with some dirt-poor schmoe who doesn’t have a penny to his name.
Any way you slice it, there are countless women who say they like one thing, but in truth respond to something else entirely.
This is called “Girl Speak.”
A big problem guys have is they don’t know how to properly translate “Girl Speak,” so they end up taking what the girl says literally.
But this is a huge, HUGE mistake!
Women very rarely say what they actually mean. And because of that, they respond really well to guys who know how to interpret what they are really saying.
Take me for instance…
I’m a fat, bald, ugly shlub. Definitely no winner in the looks department.
But I’ve dated women who say they aren’t into “fat” guys. In fact, they actually prefer guys who “take care of themselves” and “go to the gym.”
Yet they still agree to date me!
I’ve dated girls who were way younger than me. One of my more recent girlfriends was 20 years old. I’m 30. This girl wasn’t interested in dating an older guy, yet for me she made an exception.
I dated one girl who only liked black guys. Me, I’m white as white can be. Seriously. They don’t get any whiter than good ol’ Joe. But again, the girl made an exception.
In part 2 of this article, I’ll tell you how I made these exceptions happen!
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Being married to the same person for years can lack excitement so may be a reason why an extra-marital relationship is entered into. Here are some ideas you can use to revive your union and increase your partners desire for you.
Create an individual gift: Use crayons to draw a childlike image of a smiley sun, a secluded beach and two stick figures with hands. The drawing doesn’t need to be faultless but attempt to make it does need to look as if you have spent some time on it. You can draw a big heart and write a message inside it. Seal and address the envelope to your partner. Send it to your partner so she can receive it in the middle of a busy and stressful day in her office.
One summer evening, enjoy a picnic together. Lie down on the blanket and gaze at the stars as both of you enjoy the snacks, chocolates and champagne.
Amaze your partner: Get a long stemmed rose and deliver it when your partner would be at home. Write “Thank you for coming into my life” on it.
You will need some massage oil, a sheet of colored tissue paper and a blank card in addition to a small decorated cardboard box. Tissue paper can be placed in the box. Arrange the massage items on a table and write this message on the blank card “if you want a sensual massage call this number (your phone number)”.
Remember those memories from your childhood by taking a walk together in the park and giving your partner a swing.
Have fun with water by taking two big water pistols along with you to the beach. Pull them out into the water, give one to your partner and both of you should have a big water fight.
Determine whether there was something she’s always wanted when she was a little girl. Let this be her present from you on her birthday.
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In the first part of this article, I discussed the issues of your looks and women’s criteria of attraction. Here are two more myths to discuss!
Myth #3 – Women See What Makes Us Insecure
Understand that we know ourselves better than anyone else ever will. We are able to pick out every single flaw there is about ourselves – our big ears, big nose, weak chin, receeding hairline…
No matter what it is, we see it!
And because we see it, we assume everyone else does too. But the fact is, most people aren’t very observant, and unless they specifically look for something to criticize you about, they’re not going to care about your insecurities, whatever they may be.
A lot of guys try and dismiss their insecurities by calling attention to it, as if to try and “diffuse” whatever it is they feel is ugly about them. But all this does is draw the woman’s attention to this insecurity, and only at that point do people notice it.
And insecurity is always UNattractive.
It’s important, in every situation, that you always focus on the good stuff about you, instead of your shortcomings, and have the positives outshine the negatives.
Myth #4 – Good Looking Guys Have It Easy
This is a huge, prevalent myth that most men believe. It’s just assumed – if you are good looking, you’ll attract good looking mates.
A good looking man will have his own issues with the ladies. The physical attraction helps in the early stages, but long term, they’ll have some of the same issues.
Attraction is tantamount to amplifying the emotion a woman feels while she’s around you, and then have those same emotions become associated with you specifically, in her eyes. That way, you’ll become the source of them.
If a man matches a woman’s physical type, she’ll gravitate to him because those features make her feel good. But if the guy is boring, or a jerk, or just not compatible, those feelings will go away.
However, if you take a guy that the woman maybe isn’t initially physically attracted to, and then have him make her experience feelings of fun, excitement, and pleasure – she WILL become attracted to him eventually.
This is the fundamental concept of attraction – when you make other people feel good, they will want to be around you.
You don’t have to be a good guy to make women feel good! You just need to know how to interact with them.
But the second aspect to this equation is physical attraction.
This is where, in addition to making people feel good, you also turn them on.
And this is where seduction comes in.
By creating attraction in a woman, she’s going to see you completely differently, and in a good way! This is despite any ill conceived shortcomings you believe you have.
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It is hard when you go through a break up. We are not taught in life what to do or how to handle a break up and no one has written a guide to help us through a breakup. So what is a girl supposed to do to win her ex boyfriend back?
If your goal is to win your ex boyfriend back, then following these 5 tips on how to win him will be to your advantage:
1.The first tip which will help you and your ex boyfriend to get back is to get your head straight. You need to get rid of the negative thoughts. You have to stop feeling sorry for yourself. You have to be willing to be strong.
Don’t let depression keep you down. You can’t achieve a goal, if you can’t keep your emotions in check and your mind clear. Negative thoughts are destructive behavior.
2. The next step is to fully accept the fact that that the relationship is over. There?s no star in the universe that will change what has already happened and you don?t need to continue hashing it over in your mind?move on.
Keep your mind in the present. Once you acknowledge that the previous relationship wasn?t right then you are on to a new start and a better relationship. It didn?t take one day to end your relationship and it will take more than one to rebuild it.
3. Let your ex boyfriend have some breathing room. Guys are funny and really hate it when they feel that girls are coming on too strong. Let him think of the relationship himself on his own terms. If you really want him back, then let him have this space or you will just turn him away.
Don’t continuously call him, text message him, email him, or go to his place or where he hangs out just to see him. Give him time to realize he may have made a mistake. He may begin to actually miss you. If you blow it, you may have a tougher time getting him back.
4.Become an object of desire. If you can, get some new makeup. Get some new clothes. Get a new hairstyle. If you’ve picked up a few pounds, start exercising and eating healthy.
When you look good on the outside, you’re going to start feeling better about yourself on the inside. By feeling good on the inside you will be confident and happy. When you’re confident and happy, you will project this image to others. You will become an object of desire to men. This includes your ex boyfriend.
5.Take it slow. If you followed steps 1-4 your ex boyfriend at some point will probably get in touch with you. Imagine his surprise when he sees the ?new? you from step 4. He will probably be sorry that he broke up with you. Keep your physical contact with him to a minimum, if you do see him.
Just be positive in yourself, keep your appearance top-notch and always look your best and when he?s around he will surely notice and desire to be with you. Remember to keep your distance and once your ex-boyfriend realizes just what it is he has lost he will not hesitate to want you back in his arms again. And when he sees that you aren?t pinning away for him, he will be dying to have you back.
Getting your ex-boyfriend may not be an easy task and the tips will probably be hard for your heart to follow; however, when you come to do follow these tips, they will help you and your ex boyfriend to get back together.
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This is the second article in this series on flirting.
In part one of this series, I told you about using the eyes in flirting. In this part, we’ll cover the idea of PROXIMITY and it’s importance.
So you’ve done the silent dance that takes place with her eyes and yours. She’s sent signals indicating she’s interested, and it’s time to move in.
So you move in, and immediately you start to wonder… “how close should I stand?”
That’s a good question.
The general answer is, to start: about 4 feet.
Why four feet?
It’s what has developed as a sort of standardized safe distance in North America. The distance is about 2 small steps away from her; get any closer and you might notice how uncomfortable she’ll get, if you pay attention.
As I mentioned above, that’s North America. In Latin America and the Mediterranean, the distance starts closer, and in Northern Europe and England, it’s a bit further away.
You can test this next time you speak to a woman. Creep slowly closer too quickly, and watch her reaction. Her body language will start to show subtle shifts.
Eventually, however, you will move closer together. When is it time to do so? It’s whenever you start gaining a verbal rapport. She’ll loosen up, be playful, and you can start in with touching her. I always recommend paying attention to her body language.
The key is to see if she becomes more inviting. It will be obvious when she does, IF you are paying attention to the signs she’s giving you, and being objective about it. I’ll get more into body language at a later date, but I encourage you, in the meantime, to watch it closely, not only in your encounters, but the successful encounters you see out in the real world.
So what happens when you get too close? Again, the body language, along with her demeanor, will make this apparent. For example, if she folds her arms or legs, tightly, while facing your direction, that’s a really good warning sign.
If that happens, back off a bit. Take a half step back, straighten your posture, and watch how she reacts to you. She might loosen up a bit, and at that time, continue with the flirting, but ease into it.
Sometimes, when you get too close, she can become completely spooked. She’ll want to get away. If that happens, don’t worry, just chalk it up as a loss and move on to the next woman. It’s all part of the learning process.
Are there exceptions to the four foot rule? Absolutely. The first one has to do with location. If you are in a tightly packed bar, you can stand closer generally, as personal space has shrunk for everyone.
And there are other exceptions too. Have you ever been to a packed bar while sober? You might be uncomfortable while others aren’t. This goes hand in hand with the above mentioned exception – alcohol allows this to happen. Watch the difference between the early evening in a bar and late evening. The other difference is with the person’s social nature – an extrovert has less issues with their space being intruded upon than an introvert.
I advise playing with this concept to get a feel for it. Once you understand it, your flirting will be far smoother, and in turn, better!
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When I used to be completely clueless, and hence lonely, I’d spend a lot of time in front of my computer, maybe gaming, maybe watching smut, but definitely NOT interacting with other people. And I’d wonder: “How do we people actually meet?”
To me, this question was on the same level as “Which came first, the chicken or the egg?” and “If a tree falls in the forest with no one around, does it make a sound?” It was basically a question one could never truly know the answer to. Though, every time I would go out in public and see guy after guy with their girlfriends and wives, I would be reminded of this question.
How do people meet each other?
Or more specifically, how do guys meet women? What does everyone else know that I don’t? Why am I alone and they are with somebody? What is the secret?
Once I decided to take control of my life and make a concerted effort to meet women, I discovered the secret. And it’s a secret that’s so simple, so obvious, that I wonder why I didn’t know it before. Some of you out there reading this probably already know the secret, some might be like I was and not be aware of it. But when you hear it, this secret will make perfect sense. So are you ready to hear it? The secret to meeting other people is
You talk to them.
Was I right? Is it obvious? I know it may seem rather simplistic, but this is probably the single most important notion there is when it comes to getting a girlfriend/wife/booty call, or what have you. If you do not talk to someone, you will never MEET them.
And you can’t have a relationship with someone you never meet.
The simple act of talking to a woman can lead to so many different things:
–You get an idea about her personality
–You can see what you have in common
–You can find out if there is some chemistry there
–You give yourself an opening to get her contact information
–You establish a level of trust and comfort that will allow you to ask her out later on
All this from the simple act of moving your mouth and having words come out!
It is because of this concept that I wrote my book, The Art Of Approaching, because there is so much to know about meeting women. You can talk to them, but what if they don’t respond favorably? What if you run out of stuff to talk about? What if you can’t even think of something to talk about at all?
This is where the concept of the “opener” comes in.
I’ve talk about openers in other newsletters before, and I go into extreme detail about them in my book. But having a good opener is too important a concept just to let it go mentioned once or twice.
Want more information about this? Check out part 2!
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If you are separated or even divorced with your beloved woman, it doesnt mean that you wont be able ever to get her back.
Only you have to understand by yourself if you really want it.
I will tell you some reasons, why women lose interest towards to their partner. It starts from small things: lack of compliments about her appearance, lack of sexual life together, you didnt spend much time together because of work, you started talking less and less to each other.. So, I guess its enough, that your love started looking, perhaps, to another man, or she just became colder, because you are not that warm with her, or she is in permanent contact with her best friend or mother, and that was getting on your nerves.
I dont want to tell you, that all is your fault. If you are not together now, that means that you both did something wrong. But if you are reading this article that means, that you are the partner, who is interested, how to win love back.
Even if she doesnt try to do it together with you, even if she is with another man, you can try getting your ex back. It is possible!
There are some keys.
First, start from yourself. When you look into the mirror ” do you like yourself? May be, its really time to start with some little sport exercises?
If you are drinking ” stop it. It doesnt change something, but it makes things only worse.
When you feel, that you are in a good shape and moral condition ” call your ex, or leave the message on the answering machine, or send an SMS with invitation for a short lunch. For the first time lunch (1 hour maximum) is the best solution. Dinner will be another time, dont worry.
Lunch usually works. But if she denies your invitation, stay polite, just say thank you and wish her a good day! Try once again in a week.
For lunch you have to look very good. Go and refresh your wardrobe.
During this lunch you dont say how much you miss her, and not at all how much you still love her. Keep it like a talk between good friends. Ask her about her daily life, tell her about yours. And very important: dont forget to tell her how good she looks today!
If she starts blaming you, agree with anything, dont get hot, dont reply. Keep calm.
If lunch was fine, dont immediately make some plans for the future. Tell your ex girlfriend, that it was a pleasure to see her.
Send your ex later flowers with thanks for the lunch. Flowers are the best key to any woman. And wait a week. It can happen that your ex will call you by herself. So, you are on the right road.
Remember, if there were once true feeling between two hearts, it is always possible to restore them.
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Were you aware that as many of 22% of men cheat on their girlfriends. Do not think that for a minute that since you are in a Christian, God fearing relationship, that yoou will not have possible problems in your love life. On the contrary, you could have just as many if not more.
As many as 22% of women are cheated on by their loving boyfriends or husbands. That is a pretty high number. On the contrary, only about 12% of women cheat on their men. Go ahead and give yourself a pat on the back ladies, you deserve it. Most of you are faithful Christian women.
Many fellow Christians have the feeling that they will not have thee problems that their non-Christian counterparts will have. This could not be further from the truth. Being in a Christian relationship can make things more complicated if anything. Being a modern Christian you have choices and you can decide how to live your life.
Suspecting that your Christian boyfriend has been cheating can be devastating. You may have thought that since you were in a Christian relationship that you would be safe from all these problems. But as you are seeing, this is not the truth. You first need to find out if your relationship is worth it to you to save. Once you decide what you are going to do with your relationship you can make better decisions. Women wondering about their boyfriend’s infedility need to step back and think about what is going on.
When it comes to affairs of the heart, you should follow your gut instinct and what God is telling you what to do. Christ has been an important part of your life, you need to include him in this important time in your life as well. Including God will only give you the strength to carry on and deal with the situation.
So now you are convinced that you have a cheating boyfriend, what do you do now? The first thing you need to do is get on your knees and pray about it. You really need to start praying about the situation before it gets worse. Confront him with your feelings, and realize that if God wants you in the relationship it will work out, if not, God has other plans and paths for you life. Keep your head up, everything is in God’s will and it shall be done.
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After giving it a lot of thought, you realize that you are still in love with your ex boyfriend, and so you now want to find out how to get back with your ex boyfriend. The relationship you?ve had is something that you cannot just give up on easily after all.
Unfortunately, getting back with an ex is easier said than done. There are many things that you have to be aware of, and cautious strategic planning along with the right attitude is essential in this case.
It is important to remember, though, that whatever strategies you use may not always bring positive results; nonetheless they are worth trying. Signs that you are too eager to get your ex boyfriend back can make him care less about you, so do yourself a favor and show him that you are not that desperate even though you may be.
Always remain cool and collected, and don?t do anything stupid just to get his attention. Be cordial when you see him, but don?t give him meaningful looks.
If this is the second time that he broke up with you because of a third party, you way want to reconsider the desire to take your ex bf back. Chances are, he?s going to cheat on you again in the future, so why waste your time on someone who cannot remain faithful to you till the end?
Before you do anything to get your ex boyfriend back, make sure that this is really what you want to happen. Your intention should be pure as well and it should not be just for the sake of having someone at your side. A relationship is something which should be treasured and if you do not have any intentions of learning from your past mistakes, everything will still be a failure. Taking back a relationship should be accompanied with responsibility.
Try to read through his thoughts if he also feels the same way about you. Usually, you can tell if he is welcoming the idea of getting back to you, in which case, you will not find it difficult to win his heart once again. Then again, if you sense that he does not want to get back with you at all, it?s likely going to be a tough journey ahead.
I?ve written more tips on my blog on how you can get back with your ex boyfriend. Pay a visit now and know what you should do.
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From what I wrote in part one of this article, it’s probably pretty clear how most guys think the wrong way about dating. Let’s look at the right way!
So what does it mean to date a woman?
Simple: Dating is the process of building comfort, strengthening emotional connections, and building attraction!
See, it doesn’t matter where you go, or how much money you spend. All that matters is how you’re able to connect to the woman you’re with and what you can make her feel about you.
That is why so many guys can take a girl on a cheap date and sweep her off her feet, and other guys can drop thousands of dollars on really creative dates and get NOWHERE.
You need to focus on how you can become emotionally connected with her, instead of trying to wow her financially.
Find out what interests you share. What passions do you have? What are her hopes and dreams? These are the things you need to know.
Stay away from boring questions like “where do you work?” Instead, rephrase these questions to be fun and interesting, for instance, ask her: “If you could do anything you wanted, and weren’t bound by the laws of space and time, what would you do?”
And most of all to do: HAVE SOME FUN!
Crack jokes – even if they’re not good. Have fun. Steer the conversation toward subjects she finds interesting. Be curious about who she is.
But most importantly, don’t shy away from the idea of love making!
Most guys won’t, but they aren’t successful either. And you need to do this to build up some tension, because without it, there is little chance of attraction.
Joke about it. Flirt with her. Be a little wicked. Girls like this, and if you DON’T do it, you won’t be able to build enough attraction to take things to the next level.
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A bridal dress is a woman’s sole prerogative and once in a life time pleasure. She can fashion that exclusive dress in any one of the five source patterns of bridal dresses. Of these, while Mermaid and Column are more suitable for those with chiseled figures, the patterns Empire, Princess, and Ball Gown will suit the susceptibilities of most.
In the pattern named Empire, there is a tight top portion supported with prominent necklines and sleeves. The bust portion can be kept highlighted or not, to suit the flow of the remainder of the dress. The flowing bottom portion starts just after the bust line, covering the body in waves of fabric. Not a single negativity of the figure is likely to get revealed if one goes in for this style.
The A-liner style, known as Princess, is more or less similar, with a flowing bottom and tighter top. It is a seamless style that gives the dress an elongated look, and gives the wearer a taller look. Underneath the flares of it, it does not matter much whether you have an hour glass figure or barrel figure. On a thinner frame, this pattern can be used to give the effect of all the necessary curves.
The Ball Gown pattern has the classic look of Cinderellas Ball Gown that her fairy godmother wove. Plenty of modifications can be made on this basic pattern to get a fuller and more feminine effect. The conical effect that the gown gives suits most, except short brides.
In the Mermaid style, the flare starts only from knee downwards. Above the knee it is all tight fitting with plenty of options in neck, sleeves, and the flare. You need a body with perfect curves, to be able to take the best advantage from a Mermaid style bridal gown.
For those who have the best figure, the Column style is the best bet. It is a single column from top to bottom, with the fabric clinging to the body all around. With the right fabric, this style will give the wearer a chiseled perfection that other styles cant give.
Try to balance your body’s equation with either of these basic patterns. Once the basic pattern is selected, other choices will easily fit into place.
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Statistics state that there are over 4,000 types of fear known to man. If you think about this, it really is true. One can have fear of almost any imaginable thing there is.
God created our bodies with the fight or flight ability. When we are pressed into a frightening situation or even thought, our physical body automatically goes into an alarm stage. When the stressor is not relived our body moves into a resistance stage. In the resistance stage, long term affects of fear develop into physical symptoms.
The hypothalamus, which maintains function of the body’s status quo, will be influenced by the stress and anxiety, taking place in the mind concerning any fear. Eventually, the body will be unable to repair itself, going into an exhaustion mode. God has designed our bodies to repair and restore itself. Yet, when we are not taking every thought captive putting us into a constant state of fight or flight our bodies cannot repair.
Whenever you’re having anxiety attacks, whom are you hearing to? Are you able to take your thoughts prisoner and contain them or are you in fear? “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he.” Proverbs 23:7 Does your mind ramble and flow off of its own accord? As stated by God in the Bible, “He did not give us a spirit of fear; but of power, and love and a sound mind.” 2nd Timothy 1:7 Understandably, if we have command of our thoughts than we possess the major power to squelch down the spirit of fear and its consequences.
The Bible tells us, roughly 365 times to “fear not”. Pretty awe-inspiring that God addresses this subject so often. He likewise, assures us that faith and fear are equal. What do fear and faith have in common? Both project into the future and demand to be carried out. Fear is full of negativity and symbolizes your opposition, the devil. Faith comprises the irrefutable peace of God.
Holistic medicine supposedly treats the whole patient, but do they understand mans spirit and soul were formed by God and have everything to do with our ultimate health and wellness? Your foe, the devil, however, understands our unique creation quite well. He has made it his job to study Gods creation for the duration of time. He knows about our mind/body/soul connection. The devil knows that we are only maintained in health and sanity to the degree that we reflect the nature of the living God. Your enemy knows that by controlling our thoughts, he can control your biology, as well.
Fear focuses on the world and is an accuser, reminding you of past failures and that God is unworthy. It separates us from God and torments us, drives us, and is contagious. Think about how true this is? When you embrace fear, it is generally a driving force pushing us into negative thought territory, causing our body to go into flight or fight.
Faith is all about “whom we will believe”, which is God. Faith is about trust and hope that God will take care of your future. “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of which is not yet seen.” Hebrews 11:1 If you have faith you believe before you see it in the physical. Faith gently leads us, unlike when fear drives us. God honors and respects those of you who believe and trust in Him. Faith or fear are a decision you can choose. Practice taking every thought in your mind captive and walking out in faith that God is the one in control of your future.
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If you feel that your partner is cheating on you and you think, that it is time to check it out, then read further.
There are some typical signs that your husband or wife is cheating on you:
1) Special care on cell phone. If before he or she could easy let it laying everywhere, now he (she ) takes it to the bath, to the toilet, keeps it permanently in the pocket. Visits to the toilet might become longer and oftener than usual. SMSs pop up very often.
2) Business trips, seminars, dinners non-stop. It happens, that even over the weekends your love is taking part in seminars, conferences, partners meetings.
3) Your best half starts coming later and later and sometimes not at all. He was drinking too much with partners and decided to stay by friend from the office not to take a risk to drive home. And it becomes rather normal after some time. Was it before like that?
4) It seems to you that you smell another perfume. Also very usual sign.
5) Everything what you do is getting on his or her nerves.
6) No compliments. As if you would not exist.
7) Kisses become not that long and not that warm, sometimes forgotten at all.
You notice that in his/her mind he/she is somewhere else, he/she doesnt listen to that what you are telling..
9) He/she avoids to look into your eyes. ..and so on.
You know, I could add here, unfortunately, a lot of other typical signs. And very often we dont want to believe it, we close our eyes on these things, because it was always a full trust and it is just difficult to start understanding, that there are some changes, which have a smell of an affair.
Nowadays 75% of all relationships are affected by infidelity. It looks pretty much!
There are proven methods to catch your cheating spouse or partner, which helped a lot of people.
It works quick, hurts, no doubts, but you know quicker where you are and how to start putting things on the right place.
No one likes to look foolish, and, I believe, you also not. The most important is to take a decision, that you are ready for any truth. Make a clear step by step plan and catch your cheating spouse.
There are lot of methods to figure out the truth. In some cases it saves the relationship, in some not. It depends on how long and deep the affair is, and, of course, if you have at all a wish, after you know the whole truth, to save your relationship.
It really depends on the situation how you deal after you know the whole truth.
But if you are really looking for evidences, you will find a help here:
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In part 1 of this article, I showed you what “Girl Speak” was and how I avoided it’s trap. In this part, I’ll teach you to avoid it yourself.
If I had taken the “Girl Speak” from the first part of this article seriously, I wouldn’t have gotten another meeting with the girls.
But I know the key to by-passing the most common “Girl Speak” objections.
You know the ones…
“I only like guys with great bodies.”
“A guy who wants to take me out needs to have a nice car.”
“I want a tall man.”
“I want a guy my own age.”
“I have a boyfriend.”
“I’m not looking for a serious relationship.”
Blah, blah, blah.
So how do I do it? Well, its fairly simple actually…
Don’t try and change their minds… change their EMOTIONS.
If a girl shares what she finds attractive with you, look past the logical part of it that she’s sharing with you. Because, what she’s saying has zero to do with logic.
No, sir.
When a girl tells you something like “I like to date tall guys,” she’s not telling you she’s attracted to guys who are tall.
She’s telling you she’s attracted to the way tall guys make her FEEL.
Normally, if you ask a girl why she likes tall guys, she will share with you that maybe she “feels safer” with tall men.
So in that case, she’s looking to feel secure with the guy she’s dating.
Guess what? You don’t have to be tall to make a woman FEEL secure! you just need to know how to trigger that emotion inside her.
So let’s say you want to get a woman attracted to you – no matter what you look like.
Do you know how to make a woman feel that kind of attraction?
The key is making her feel FUN when she’s around you. If you can make a woman feel fun, chances are she’ll feel attracted.
Why?
Because attraction is all about feeling good! And if you can create some good old fashioned emotional tension in there – guess what?
She’s going to be physically attracted to you!
And if she’s attracted to you, it’s really easy beyond that point!
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Many people are involved with people that are much older or younger than themselves. These kinds of relationships are called May to December relationships. They have been going on since the dawn of time and is nothing surprising. Noone today is surprised to see an older man with a much younger women, that is common place.
Men who have younger women as their wives are looked upon fondly by their peers. Their peers think think more of them because they are getting a younger woman. It is assumed they can keep up with them sexually and socially. His peers think of him as “lucky’ that he grabbed himself a younger woman, it is something to look up to.
Something that you do not hear a lot about, even in this day and age, is older women dating younger men. That is something you just do not hear about a lot. Cougars (women who like younger men) go after them for many reasons. They are secured in their self being, usually have gone through a lot in their lives and have learned from their mistakes. They have a lot to loose so they are very careful who they choose as their partner. They often know what they want and know exactly how to get it.
Because these women we call cougars know exactly what they want in a man, they are much more picky when it comes to choosing a mate. They have made all the mistakes tha their younger counterparts are making now and have learned a great deal from them. They are looking for different things than they traditionally were looking for when they were younger. They like the excitement that a younger man brings, but they also want him to be mature. Cougars are often health conscious, eat properly and exercise.
Not everything is perfect in these May to December relationships. They have problems similiar to everyone’s else but some of the problems are a little different. For example, there may be such a generational gap that they cannot overcome it. They may be limited on what they talk about and the things they do. What if the younger person wants to bicycle but the cougar wants to have no part of it? There could be some physical reasons why she would not want to do that. Cheating is also common in May to December relationships, it is not surprising considering the differences that are there.
If you find out that you younger partner is cheating, there are several things you can do. Have you checked his shirt, pants or coat pockets? Sometimes you have to get sneaky to protect yourself. You need to know the truth about what is going on. Look in his briefcase or search through his computer, you may be amazed what you can find out. After you have done some preliminary research, go to your favorite people and number search engine and see what further things you can find out.
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Have you ever been completely frustrated when it comes to attracting the type of girl you like to you?
I know I have.
I think we’ve all been in those situations where you admire a girl from afar, and wonder what its going to take to get her to fall in love with you.
(Or at the very least, want to make out with you or something cool like that. =)
I get emails all the time from guys asking me about how they can get their “One Particular Girl” that they like.
They want to know how they can MAKE her attracted to them.
Well, there’s good news, and there’s bad news…
Bad news first: You can’t MAKE someone like you, or feel any attraction to you.
Why is this?
Because its impossible to make anyone do anything. They are their own person, with their own thoughts, feelings, ideas, beliefs, etc. They have free will, and if you try and make them do something, chances are slim they will actually do what you want.
So trying to MAKE a girl feel blazing attraction for you is a difficult uphill battle.
But here’s the GOOD news…
You actually CAN be attractive to the woman that strikes your fancy!
(Don’t worry, I will explain it all in part two of this article.)
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If you have to employ the services of a divorce attorney then you need to be certain they have suitable experience, they are there when you need them and have the right attitude for the task. Ideally, a divorce attorney should be passing half their time dealing with divorce cases, and preferably be a good mediator.
However, none of this will be any good without your total trust in their skills. Attorneys that tend to adhere to the mediation route are good at giving settlement advice but you may need an lawyer who is more familiar with court settlements.
Planning is all important and while there are things you need to prepare for, any contact with your divorce lawyer should be brief and to the point. This is best done by being aware of exactly what you intend to speak to them about and set down questions and answers in addition to the duration of the discussion on each occasion. Try to keep live appointments to a minimum and where matters have to be cleared up, use the phone or send a letter. Your divorce attorney is just a resource for legal matters so don’t try to get them privately involved as that is not their function – if you need emotional support there are others who can help with this.
Adhere to pertinent facts when you contact your divorce attorney – don’t discuss other matters regarding your spouse unless they are relevant to the divorce. Let your attorney know from the beginning that you will be in charge of the case and they are there for legal advice and not as somebody to lean on when things start getting rough. Tell them you need good advice and will rely on their knowledge, but that you expect to make decisions that relate to the tone and strategy of the case. You must also let them know that you require transcripts of all correspondence to be sent to you for you own record books and if you get hold of them by telephone, you require a response within one working day.
Don’t think that you have to enter into proceedings armed with a lawyer in tow as they aren’t always required although you may want to speak to one just for advice on a marital settlement for example. This means that a little study is required on your part but once you have finished this, it is much simpler to contact a lawyer to ask them particular questions and how they see your case concluding.
Marital resolutions are something that can be organized by the individuals concerned and have them looked at by a divorce attorney – then if things do not work out, the attorney can invariably be engaged to make the divorce settlement.
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If you took a decision to get your ex back, then you should know first the main reason, why he is gone. I dont know how long you were together, but you have to come back in your mind to that time, when you met each other. What did you find in him so impressive that you fall in love with him?
You have to understand what he found in you so special?
In comparison to that time do you both still have it now?
I guess, we all know that the beginning of any relationship is full of love and tenderness, admire and desire. You want to be special for your partner. Mirror becomes the best friend. You try to put on the most beautiful clothes. You say to your partner a lot of tender words, and you let him know, that he is the best man for you in the world. You love each his movement, you enjoy just looking at him, every touch is special. And all these sounds make the music!
What happened now? Do you still look at him with the same admire each day? I am pretty sure, that, unfortunately, not. For men it is the most important to feel and to see, that you admire him. You have always to mark their advantages. If your relationship turned to each day blaming and quarrelling, then you shouldnt be surprised that your love is gone. He started looking for attention and admire. Men are like that.
There is one great phrase: Love is like a fire, you should always add the wood to keep it on burning.
If you want to get your ex back, you have to start from yourself. Lets say, you have to bring yourself in order. Make a new hair dress, update your wardrobe, what about your shape? Hanging here, hanging there? Healthy diet, jogging, swimming, fitness and Important: stop drinking too much, if you do it now. It doesnt solve anything. It damages your brain and makes you looking worse and worse.
Start moving around. Check out what is interesting in theaters, go to the concerts with your best friend. Start learning at least something. For instance, new language. Why not? If you will start doing at least a part of these things, your self-confidence will come back, you will look better. It will cheer you up!
New hair dress, beautiful clothes, shape in order, fantastic hobby ” to resist such a woman will be difficult. Even if you are divorced you have all the chances to win your love back.
Now comes the most difficult part: take one month without any communication with your ex. No phone calls, sms, e-mails ” nothing! I know, I know it is difficult. Believe it or not, I passed through that by myself. It is possible to keep this distance, if you make yourself maximum busy. Besides, if you permanently try to communicate to your ex, you just push him further and further away. Let him start missing you! Sometimes the separation means you only better!
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Christian people are like everyone else and want to find true love and eventually find their husband or wife that they can share the rest of their life with. They have certain standards that they must uphold and are guided by scripture and their faith. In the past, the options for Christians have been limited, but not today, with the advent of online dating sites that are focused on the Christian faith.
Christian dating sites are plagued with the same problems that other dating sites experience. Do not be surprised if there are people on Christian dating sites only posing to be as such. Never take for granted that people are who they say they are, it is imperative that you do your due diligence when you enter into any kind of relationship with someone, but especially a romantic relationship that will most certainly rely on your Christian belief system.
People looking for love on dating sites need to proceed with extreme caution. In the past, the only options to find a date were the newsppaper ads, telephone dating services or an actual dating service that was located in a building, this was usually full service and very expensive. Many times the ads you would see in the paper were not specific to Christians and were very expensive. You now have options so be sure to take advantage of them. The biggest option you have is on the internet.
You may have tried newspaper ads, telephone ads and the like in the past. The problem with these medium is they are not focused on traditional Christian teachings and family values. Finding a mate through the newpaper or telephone always had a stigma attatched to it, and it was not a good stigma. When looking for your perfect Christian partner, the best place to start your search besides the church is the internet.
So you have found the perfect mate and want to know what to do. whether you found them online or in your local church, it is very important that you do your homework on this person. Doing your research will help you in the future to prevent any kind of problems that could occur because you did not do your research. Put your date’s name and address into your favorite people and number search engine. You will be surprised what you will find out. Doing this research will make sure that you are keeping with God’s will for your life and in turn finding the perfect Christian mate.
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More or less everyone has encountered a dominant relationship in their life, when rapidly all which seems so great has broken off because your boyfriend needs space. There are numbers of countless reasons for why a boyfriend swiftly needs space, as well as family problems, insecurities, or a fear of commitment just to name a few. Here are some files for answering the age old “how to get my ex back” query if your ex boyfriend requires more room.
- You don’t want to lose your pride or to permit him to get the best of you – But clearly you are still deeply in love with him. Initially, it may be just right to play a little bit hard to get, in order to prove to him that yes, it was his loss and not yours.
- If you are feeling like your ex boyfriend still has feelings for you, then it may be ideal for you to strike up a conversation with him. Keep communication to a minimum in order to keep the level of drama to a minimum. Short text messages, brief phone calls and online conversations in passing are all a great way to remind him how much he wants to be a part of your life without overwhelming him with your presence when he may actually want and need space.
- In the end, he will found to show major concern in you again if all goes well, and this will award you with the chance to truly begin to reminisce with him. Take into account that you must focus primarily on all of the fine memories associated with your relationship in the past. While regenerating a relationship with your ex boyfriend, you would desire to stay away from the bad encounters and negative experiences for fear they summon bad feelings and undo your hard work.
- If your boyfriends not reacting to your slow and understated progresses, you may want to acquire it for what it is. Either hes not in to you right now, or he truly just need some room and you should give it to him. On the other hand, if he appears to be paying attention in you than before, or is slowly warming up to you again, then you should continue advancing on him to rekindle the relationship.
- If your ex-boyfriend is providing you the right gestures, you can have a shot to open your heart up to him. Let him know how you feel, but escape from looking hopeless or deprived in the process. If your ex is proving you that he thinks about regenerating things, then it would be healthy to open with him. But if his gestures are pointing in the other track, it may be wiser to step back and let things occur the way it is.
These are just the initial steps in charming your Ex back. They are the initial steps I followed when I lost the love of my life. And frankly these aren’t my original ideas. I turned to T ‘Dub’ Jackson when I had no idea of how to get my true love back.
T ‘Dub’ authored a simple, down to earth step by step plan called “The Magic Of Making Up”. And you know, it worked like magic for us. Now we are more in love than ever.
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